Relationship Guidance for the ENTJ
Do You Want a Successful ENTJ Relationship?
ENTJ relationships can be full of such wonderful potential for a partner who fits the bill. This Myers-Briggs persona is characterized as being extraverted, intuitive, thinking, and judging. These characters are a little scarcer in the world than some other personalities as they make up an estimated three percent of the population. ENTJ individuals are lovers of knowledge and will always be happiest in a relationship that offers challenges, new experiences, and the opportunity to learn.
The ENTJ persona bears the nickname “the executive.” “Executives” often thrive in work environments and are likely to climb the corporate ladder very easily. Some also refer to this type of persona as “the moneymaker” because statistically speaking this character would be likely to have a lucrative and successful career. These individuals are extremely well-suited for leadership roles. Being an extraverted thinker, this kind of individual has no problem discovering what needs to be done and then delegating tasks for others to carry out. To outsiders, ENTJ can seem cold, blunt, and bossy – and in truth, they can be but this usually stems from their certainty about a solution and the steps necessary to make it come to fruition. ENTJs have an aptitude for business that comes as naturally to them as breathing. Whether this individual pursues an office career, fills the role of a salesperson, or makes the move into entrepreneurship, this charismatic and inspiring personality will most likely find a way to be top-notch at what he or she is doing and will find a way to profit from it.
These individuals are extraverts which means that they prefer to live their lives externally by observing and processing that which goes on in reality. ENTJs like to take in their environment and use their razor-sharp problem solving skills to turn problems into solutions. Although very good at coming up with their own solutions and ideas, ENTJ is also genuinely happy to listen to the ideas of others and encourages those around them to be as energetic and passionate as he or she is. This kind of attitude can be very inspirational, especially in a romantic relationship. That being said, this individual also has high expectations and will take it to heart if someone they care about falls short of what the “executive” expects.
ENTJ is a planner and is very good about mapping long-term goals for the future. Their gift of gab and alluring personality would make it easy for a potential partner to find out whether this individual intends to head down the same life path as they. The “executive” is not afraid to speak up if they think something can be done in a more productive way or if they feel that someone isn’t putting forth enough effort as they could. The “executive” can be strongly opinionated, assertive, highly confident, and even outright argumentative. Getting into a debate with this kind of person certainly wouldn’t be a good move for the faint-of-heart, as this individual has a sharp wit and will let “zingers” fly. ENTJ does have a less-dominant intuitive nature that can pick up on the feelings and motives of others, and while they may seem uncaring about the feelings of others, they often harbor strong feelings of affection and tenderness towards those they care about. ENTJ can even be sentimental, although this usually comes out in sporadic bursts rather than a continuous stream of romanticism.
For ENTJ, relationships are something to be taken seriously. Although not necessarily against short-term flings, most “executives” are planning for the future and would look for a mate they can share the foreseeable future with (which is a long way, for this personality). “Executives” take relationships very seriously and are committed, loyal partners. This smooth extravert with an underlying intuitive nature will have no problem sharing ideas, goals, and certain personal aspects in the very early stage of dating. They don’t want to waste their time with an individual who clearly would be unsuitable for them. The direct nature of ENTJ can be very refreshing in a relationship, especially for an introverted personality.
ENTJs crave growth and forward movement which is why these two aspects must be present in a long term romantic relationship. The “executive” will always look for ways to redefine the relationship in order to achieve the next stage of relationship evolution. This kind of growth is usually done in a very positive manner. As mentioned earlier, this sort of personality loves to absorb facts and information and will definitely look for ways to include the “learning” aspect into their relationships. ENTJs are enthusiastic and imaginative, which means that they are usually game for anything. They will likely take the lead with their partner and find all sorts of creative and exciting new experiences to share as a couple.
ENTJ isn’t a needy persona and will most likely assume that if his or her partner isn’t feeling satisfied, they will speak up (because that’s what the “executive” would do). When partnered with a well-developed “feeling” personality, this character may struggle to support their companion’s emotional needs, such as giving positive feedback, offering praise, and sitting down for regular emotional conversations. “Executives” who are aware of these needs can make a conscious effort to satisfy their partners. Their leadership instincts can be both good and bad for a relationship. For a laid-back partner that doesn’t mind relinquishing the control to ENTJ, this kind of partnership can work out very nicely. In other situations, the take charge attitude might cause imbalance between the couple, especially the partner who may begin to feel inept and undervalued.
Compatible Personality Types
INTP (introverted, intuitive, thinking, perceiving) and INFP (introverted, intuitive, feeling, perceiving) personalities suit the ENTJ very well. Introverts tend to serve as a counter-balance for extraverts. Where the “executive” is concerned, an intellectual introvert with lots of “layers” to their personality can serve as an intriguing puzzle and, in some respects, even a challenge to be tackled. Feeling individuals should be thoroughly developed in order to handle the periods of emotional draught that can occur with this particular persona. Where the executive-like personality has a judging trait – one that craves structure and responsibility – perceiving individuals prefer openness and flexibility. This flexible nature means that the exec’s need to be in the driver’s seat is most often satisfied, as the perceiving individual isn’t overly fussed about being in control.
As an “executive,” you have high expectations for pretty much everyone, especially your romantic partner. You know what you expect from them and if they don’t pass muster, you may feel personally let-down. Although you can easily rise to the challenge of a debate, you possess the necessary maturity to step back hear your partner’s concerns, ideas, and feelings – just take care to remind yourself of this once in a while. You aren’t completely unaware of the feelings of those around you but you might have a difficult time talking about emotional topics. Bear in mind that your partner, especially if he or she is a “feeling” personality, may need to occasionally hear some words of affection every now and then just to double-check that you’re still interested in them.
You’re very good at turning problems into solutions and your experience in such has given you an unshakable sense of confidence. This can be extremely attractive to potential partners, but try not to let yourself get out of hand – your potential/current partner deserves the chance to shine as well. You might be tempted to completely take control but remember that your partner can and probably will be affected by your actions. Although they aren’t likely to be bad, your partner still needs to have a valued and productive role in the relationship. Consult him or her during the decision-making process and allow yourself to mull their ideas over. The part of you that likes to see others put forth effort and manage their share of responsibilities will better appreciate your partner if you give them the chance to impress you.
You tend to have an intolerance for mess and lack of structure. This your dominant controlling trait making its presence known. A new partner may not be used to such high expectations. If you’ve been with your companion for a while, you might consider cutting him or her some slack – they need room to get a handle on their own personality, especially if yours is always bearing down and taking the lead in the relationship. It can be easy to lose one’s sense of self when such a dominant personality is around. Consider overlooking spaces that your partner considers to be inherently personal, such as a car or hobby room, so that your companion has a comfortable space that they can retreat to when they need to recharge.
Tips for Dating an ENTJ Personality
Dating an ENTJ personality can be an eye-opening experience. “Executives” see the world as a puzzle to be solved or a maze of possibilities that only need to be figured out. They love learning and have a yearning to constantly improve or move forward. Show your ENTJ that you are up for trying new experiences but don’t allow his or her assertive, take-control nature to force you into trying something that you aren’t comfortable with. If, for instance, you have concerns about an active trip that your companion has planned then voice these issues with your significant other. Chances are, he or she will be able to mull over your concerns and come up with a solution that would suit both of you.
This sort of personality isn’t the type to be overly mushy and they certainly aren’t one for mincing words. Don’t be surprised to find that your “executive” isn’t always the elaborate and romantic sort. While he or she certainly can (and probably will) be once in a while, affection isn’t a constant for this personality. If you can’t handle affection and sentiment in random and sometimes far-spanning bursts throughout the relationship then this character may not be the best match for you.
In order for this persona to be satisfied in a romantic relationship, they are going to need to be given at least an equal share of control in the relationship. Don’t expect to be the one making all the decisions because your partner will be hoping to fill the same role. A mature, well-developed ENTJ can appreciate your need to have a say in things that affect yourself and the relationship, but you may have to speak up if your partner becomes overzealous or controlling. Another important aspect in an ENTJ relationship is the need for intellectual stimulation. Prove your intellectual competence by instigating discussions about current world topics, interesting historical events, or even an intriguing book that you’ve read recently.